Anyone that has watched 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, would agree that Kalani Faagata has been a fan favorite amongst the viewers. Her frequent fights with her Samoan husband, Asuelu Pulaa, has led many people to ask, “why doesn’t Kalani just get a divorce?”
Greed, Greed everywhere on 90 Day Fiance!
In a recent episode of 90 Day Fiance Kalani and Asuelu took their two boys to Washington to visit with Asuelu mother and sisters. All seemed great as the group set down to enjoy a wide variety of food and enjoy each other’s company. This meal quickly went south when Asuelu tells his mother, Lesina that he can not give her $1,000 which she expected and felt entitled, but instead offers her $100. It was quickly apparent that Asuelu’s mother Lesina felt like that was not enough!
Some private time
Kalani decides to talk one on one with Asuelus mother, Lesina, and sister Tammy to explain their money situation. Asuelu only works part-time, and Kalani stays at home with their two small boys. To no one’s surprise, the whole conversation doesn’t go as planned!
“I’m here to tell you guys, I just don’t know why you all feel entitled to me and my family’s money. And that, however you feel, that way. But at the end of the day, it is going to be what I say,” Kalani explains. 90 Day Fiance fans were proud of her for sticking up for her family.
Asuelus mother starts to yell “give me the money, that’s all I want”! Lesina, Asuelus’ mother, and Tammy, Asuelu’s sister, had the nerve to ask that Kalani divorce Asuelus so that they can take him back home to Samoa. The whole thing ended with Kalani crying and quickly walking away, with Tammy lunging toward Kalani.
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I’m on a reality TV show about relationships. I’m not on a show that explores the ethnography of Sāmoa. It is not my obligation, nor Asuelu’s, to spoon-feed fa’asamoa to those with ethnocentric ideologies, who specifically watch the show for drama. Information about Sāmoa and fa’asamoa is readily available for anyone willing to look and learn. If people are incapable of entering a 5 letter word into a search engine, why would anyone care about their perceptions in the first place? Some of you are responding to these people by shitting on us, rather than enlightening them. If you’re truly upset about perceived misrepresentation, and not just bandwagon upset, why not tag informative pages like @samoatourism or @measinasamoa? Why not use those instances to share links to www.samoa.travel to let people see the beauty of Sāmoa and to read about our history and culture? Why not use that same energy towards the actual well-being of our people, instead of wasting it on seeking pālagi approval? Did you know you can feed a family in Sāmoa for $20 USD a month? Did you know that same organization, @browngirlwoke, also holds workshops for our girls to teach them about their periods and make the topic less taboo? Did you know that they are actively working to help our people break the cycle of domestic violence and abuse, amongst a laundry list of other things? Did you know that @svsg_be_the_change shelters our abused and neglected women and children? Did you know they have a program for the nofotane to empower them and learn to provide for themselves? Did you know it’s super easy to donate to both and you can choose any amount you’d like to give? (Both links are in my bio.😉) Being a faika is not more important than the generational growth and progress of our people. If y’all wanted the historically accurate portrayal of fa’asamoa from us, we’d be on National Geographic. (But, we too ratchet for that, and y’all wouldn’t watch that anyway.)😛 So, put your money where your mouth is and JUSS GEEV DEM DA MONEHH, DAS ALL I WAN! Screenshot your donations and I will post them to my story. 🤗💕
They only want money on 90 Day Fiance!
Kalani goes back to their hotel room to talk to her husband, Asuelu, to let him know what happened. Asuelu got very upset when Kalani started to bad mouth his sister. This argument quickly ended with Asuelu leaving and staying the night with his family just to show up the next day with flowers and balloons and a fresh perspective on the many issues in their marriage. After going back to their home in Utah after the crazy Washington trip, Kalani told the camera in the Sept 6 episode that Asuelu and her still have unresolved issues.
Talking to mom!
In a sit down with her mom, Kalani did mention a possible divorce but she wants to exhaust all the possible options before taking such a major step! “If we get divorced, I just want to know that I tried everything that I possibly could because then I can tell the boys that I did this or I tried that”. Kalani went on to say that she would try therapy with her husband next “because I can’t keep living like this. It’s insane”.
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