Jade Roper Tolbert safely delivered her baby, Brooks in July this year. Her baby came so suddenly she gave birth at home and shared about the extreme stress of it all. Then later, she said she felt “not okay” and talked to her husband about her mental health. Now, it looks like Jade feels terribly guilty and carries loads of guilt because of Brooks’ below-par weight gain.
Jade Roper’s baby arrived in a rush, later her mental health’s not okay
TV Shows Ace reported that Jade’s baby really came so fast, she never made it to the birthing center. In fact, we reported the whole experience was frightening and harrowing for the Bachelor Nation alum. She shared about it on her Instagram after the birth. There, Jade said, “It was one of the scariest moments of my life because I felt so out of control. But Tanner, Tanner’s mom, my mom, and the medics and firefighters kept me going when I felt like the world was caving in on me and my unborn baby.”
But, while Jade Roper seemed fine after the birth of Brooks, she later encountered mental health issues. She said on Instagram that she just decided to speak out one day. Jade told her hubby Tanner, that she was “not okay.” Life & Style reported that she suffers from “mom guilt” when she’s away from her child. Plus, she urged people to be aware of their mental health issues and talk about it to someone. That was back in October. But now, stress, worry, and guilt overtake her again.
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My birth story episode is now up on the Mommies Tell All podcast! I sat down with Carly a couple days ago and opened up to her about the details of the night and how it exactly came to be that Brooks was born in our closet. *link in bio to listen or check out my stories* ❤️My biggest gratitudes to Tanner, my mom, my mother-in-law, Laguna Beach OBGYN and Midwifery, the nurses at Mission Hospital and of course the Orange County Fire Authority Paramedics who all helped me through this labor, delivery and recovery.❤️
Dealing with worry and guilt over Brooks’ poor weight gain
On Friday, Jade took to Instagram to share her guilt and stress as Brooks is not gaining weight properly. In a very long post, she poured her heart out. In part, she said, “We went to Brooks’ four month check up and I was crushed to find out he’s in the 5th percentile, and that the ped was very concerned about his weight gain.” She added, “I’ve never felt more like a failure. The feelings of guilt that my baby was aching for food and nutrition, and I didn’t know it, consumed me.”
But, they had loads of feeding issues with Brooks before that. In her post, Jade detailed some of those. They included “allergies that left him crying for hours on hours from malabsorption, a lip and tongue tie… milk supply issues,” and “foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.” It sounds like she went thr9uygh a very worrying time. Now, the BIP alum asked others how they deal with that sort of worry and guilt.
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Our feeding journey with Brooks has been a really hard one. We’ve dealt with dairy and soy allergies that left him crying for hours on hours from malabsorption, a lip and tongue tie we were advised not to revise (although they give him a poor latch), milk supply issues, foremilk/hindmilk imbalance. It feels like the list goes on. I think one of the biggest worries we have as mothers of little babies is if they are getting enough to eat and if they are gaining enough weight. We went to Brooks’ four month check up and I was crushed to find out he’s in the 5th percentile, and that the ped was very concerned about his weight gain. I’ve never felt more like a failure. The feelings of guilt that my baby was aching for food and nutrition, and I didn’t know it, consumed me. I knew he was a string bean (he’s tall for his age), but with how hard we work on his feedings, I guess I didn’t think he was that tiny compared to other babies his age. It can be hard to fully give your attention to each child sometimes when you are taking care of a baby and a toddler too, and I feel so bad I may have been missing some cues from him I didn’t know he was showing. I’ve changed my whole diet and so many other parts of my life to make sure he is getting good feedings, so it’s just so hard to know that it’s not enough. We were recommended by his doctor to supplement after every breastfeeding and to add extra feedings, so we’ve been doing that with a hypoallergenic formula that’ll hopefully help him put on weight before his weight gain check-up. Any mamas out there that had babies that were on the lower end of the weight percentiles? How did you get through the worry and the guilt? How did you not over obsess with the progress? There’s been so many tears over here, but we are strong and working on getting this little guy some rolls. I’d do about anything in the world to help keep Brooks healthy and thriving. Anyway, thanks for letting me vent, I guess I’m just hoping to know we aren’t alone in this feeding struggle. ❤️
Fans react to Jade’s post about Brooks
Many fans told Jade Roper not to get all guilty about it. This seems quite a common problem. Some shared their experiences, and others encouraged Jade. One follower said, “There will ALWAYS be enough worry to go around as a momma. You are doing your best, listening to what the pediatrician is informing you, and implementing the plan. THAT is being an amazing mom!!! Give yourself grace. He is going to be fine. Continue adjusting as needed and before you know it, they’ll be teenagers and you’ll be laughing about how stressed you use to be… 💛”
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